Outreach On Campus

Finals are approaching rapidly and that can mean that increased stress levels are starting to make an appearance throughout college campuses. TWLOHA at Washburn wants to make sure everyone is still practicing self care. We were thinking of ways that we could spread that message on campus and came up with the idea to make little baggies to hand out with a variety of stress relievers in them. Things like stress balls, chocolate, positive quotes, bubbles, etc. 

We are going to be tabling in the union during success week from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. on Monday, Tuesday, and Friday. If you are a Washburn student and are in need of some self care help, please stop by! 

Here's some photos from other tabling events we have done in the past:

 Photo Credit: Rachel Proffitt

 Photo Credit: Rachel Proffitt

 Photo Credit: Monica McDougal

 Photo Credit: Rachel Proffitt

Photo Credit: Monica McDougal

Language: What To Say

I've written one blog post already about how to be a friend and one that briefly touched on being aware of what language you use, but I came across this article that kind of sums the two up very nicely. It provides some good examples of responses that would be more harmful than good and also gives some good pointers on how to better respond when someone opens up to you.

Click here to give it a read.

It's The Little Things

I was walking on campus the other day and someone gave me a compliment on my hair. I had no clue who the person was, but it still put a smile on my face and drastically improved my mood. Even though I change my hair up quite a bit, I still get anxious about what other people will think of it so when I get compliments like that, it makes me a bit more confident as well.

At a TWLOHA meeting recently, we challenged the group to give a compliment to someone on campus throughout the week. The message in this is that you never know what another person is going through and giving out that compliment could make their day.

We also tried to make a point that it doesn't have to be about physical appearance. Maybe you had a class with them and you really agreed with something they said or maybe you notice that they have a band logo on their laptop and you want to tell them they have great taste in music. Even just pointing out how nice the weather is one day can cause them to notice the sunshine more so than usual.

So I challenge you to be more aware of people you walk by on campus or at work and hand out some compliments!

A classmate of mine is making a Random Act Of Kindness Week and I think it's a great idea. If you're interested in checking that out click here!

Self Care

Last week at our TWLOHA meeting, we discussed self care. This is a reoccurring theme with the topic of mental health, but for good reason! Taking care of yourself should be number one on your priority list!

Mental well being is what I focus on on this blog, but it's important to make sure you are physically well too. If you want to get read more about taking care of yourself physically I encourage you to check out Lauren's blog (link on the side of the page) or click here.

Feeling great physically can do wonders for yourself mentally, even if it's just making sure you get enough sleep each day. As a college student, that is a constant struggle for me but trying to work on little things like that helps with my stress levels and puts me in a better mood. Kassidy's blog does a great job of incorporating both physical and mental well being and I suggest giving it a read! The link is also on the side of the page or you can click here.

Some ways to actively practice self-care:

Photo Credit: Google images

How To Be A Friend

Having a friend come to you and share that they aren't doing well can bring on many emotions. You care about this person and you don't want to see them struggle. You want to be able to help out but how?

Take the time to listen. It's a simple answer, but it's effective. Chances are, you aren't a trained psychologist or counselor. You may not know how to fix what's wrong, but you can listen. They've come to you because they trust you and value your friendship. Be present in that conversation with them. Offer to help them in the ways you are able. A lot of the time, that can be something as simple as helping them look some options for help or even walking with them to an appointment. Most importantly, let them know that what they are feeling is valid and that they are not alone.

What if you suspect something is wrong, but they haven't reached out to you?

This is a tricky one. I don't feel like there is one right answer to this because each of your friendships are unique and what may help with one person may not for another. If you notice that a friend might be struggling with something, make an effort to start that conversation. Even just asking how their day/week/month is going can help them see that someone is genuinely interested in how they are feeling. 

As always though, keep your own mental health in mind. Sometimes friends can share a lot with you and it can get pretty heavy. It's okay to say that maybe you aren't in a position, or maybe not even in a mental state yourself, to be able to help them but there are so many resources you can direct them to. Find out what counseling services are in your area. If you're on a college campus, there is most likely free services to student that they are already paying for in their tuition. 

For those in the Topeka area and/or attending Washburn University, this is the counseling staff on campus and they are more than willing to help! They are located in Henderson 111.

Photo Credit: Washburn University

Community

People need other people.

I mentioned that saying in an earlier blog post. It's one of the most important concepts to grasp in my opinion. It's very important that you have other people in your life that you cant turn to when something happens. Whether that something is good or bad, being able to talk about it with another person or group of people helps you process it. They are your community.

Not all communities are good though. The difference between a good a bad community can be explained by answering one question: Why are these people in my life?

You want to keep a community that pushes you in a positive way, that wants to see you be the best version of yourself, and that makes you feel better after being around them. Think of the reasons you hang out with these people. What commonalities are shared across the group? Are your shared interests things that are healthy or unhealthy for you?

Spotting a bad community can be difficult, especially if it's some of the people you are closest to. To give an example, I've had friends in the past that, even though we got along great, the habits that were being formed and encouraged weren't the best. It's hard to remove yourself from a group you've become so close with but ALWAYS be keeping in mind your well being. If you are going to be in a better place mentally without those people, it is completely okay to let yourself move on.

It's also not good to solely invest yourself in just one community. Not everyone is going to get along 100% of the time so if things start getting tense in one group, you might need other people to turn to. Same goes for sharing your entire self and story with just one person. That's not healthy for either party. It's great to talk about your story and it deserves to be heard, but think of WHO deserves to hear it.

Again, people need other people. Make sure you have some good communities in your life and don't feel guilty removing the negative.