It's The Little Things

I was walking on campus the other day and someone gave me a compliment on my hair. I had no clue who the person was, but it still put a smile on my face and drastically improved my mood. Even though I change my hair up quite a bit, I still get anxious about what other people will think of it so when I get compliments like that, it makes me a bit more confident as well.

At a TWLOHA meeting recently, we challenged the group to give a compliment to someone on campus throughout the week. The message in this is that you never know what another person is going through and giving out that compliment could make their day.

We also tried to make a point that it doesn't have to be about physical appearance. Maybe you had a class with them and you really agreed with something they said or maybe you notice that they have a band logo on their laptop and you want to tell them they have great taste in music. Even just pointing out how nice the weather is one day can cause them to notice the sunshine more so than usual.

So I challenge you to be more aware of people you walk by on campus or at work and hand out some compliments!

A classmate of mine is making a Random Act Of Kindness Week and I think it's a great idea. If you're interested in checking that out click here!

Community

People need other people.

I mentioned that saying in an earlier blog post. It's one of the most important concepts to grasp in my opinion. It's very important that you have other people in your life that you cant turn to when something happens. Whether that something is good or bad, being able to talk about it with another person or group of people helps you process it. They are your community.

Not all communities are good though. The difference between a good a bad community can be explained by answering one question: Why are these people in my life?

You want to keep a community that pushes you in a positive way, that wants to see you be the best version of yourself, and that makes you feel better after being around them. Think of the reasons you hang out with these people. What commonalities are shared across the group? Are your shared interests things that are healthy or unhealthy for you?

Spotting a bad community can be difficult, especially if it's some of the people you are closest to. To give an example, I've had friends in the past that, even though we got along great, the habits that were being formed and encouraged weren't the best. It's hard to remove yourself from a group you've become so close with but ALWAYS be keeping in mind your well being. If you are going to be in a better place mentally without those people, it is completely okay to let yourself move on.

It's also not good to solely invest yourself in just one community. Not everyone is going to get along 100% of the time so if things start getting tense in one group, you might need other people to turn to. Same goes for sharing your entire self and story with just one person. That's not healthy for either party. It's great to talk about your story and it deserves to be heard, but think of WHO deserves to hear it.

Again, people need other people. Make sure you have some good communities in your life and don't feel guilty removing the negative.